Risks to A Relationship During and After the Holidays

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One of the bigger ironies of the Holidays is that many a couple often have problems with their intimate relationships during this particularly festive season. Some of these conflicts are bad enough that they can result in a breakup, or for the married pairs, divorce.

We have to realize that Holidays are emotionally charged (there is hardly any cold logic that can justify having them, wouldn’t you think?), and the polarity of which can turn from positive to negative even with the most minor of emotional catalysts.

Let us enumerate some of the Holiday situations and predicaments that can potentially ruin a good relationship:

Old Flames Rekindling

For starters, there is always the possibility of third party involvement that could spoil the Holidays for you and your partner. In this season, most of us are prone to looking back on our lives and remembering the happier times, and along with that comes the memories of people that we have shared those memorably happy moments with.

Though we might all agree that the past is over (bonus points if you can name the US President whose quote that statement was derived from), old relationships will always have a lingering remnant of it within the people involved, and in some cases, that little ember could produce a spark that could revive old feelings. This is something you want to avoid, especially if you and your partner are heavily and mutually invested in your relationship. The best way for you and your partner not to get caught in the trap of reliving past flames is to avoid proximity with past partners altogether. Granted, a polite greeting and a few words of well-wishing between old flames is only natural, but you should never set the stage for something more intimate to transpire.

An Overly Busy Schedule

The Holidays are rife with parties, get-togethers, reunions, concerts, and other hectic events that might take too much of your time, which in turn could starve your relationship and expose it to the risk of waning away.

While it isn’t healthy to spend all of the Holidays with just each other, make arrangements beforehand to have quality, one-on-one time with your partner amidst all the fanfare and festivities. This is a special time of the year, and who else would you want to spend it with than the love of your life?

Materialistic Distractions

If you have watched or even participated in the Holiday-themed shopping events like Black Friday/Cyber Monday/Christmas/New Year’s Sales, you know as much as the rest of us that the rush to acquire and consume supposedly lucrative products on sale is a massive distraction, and it is seriously encroaching on the very reason for the season.

Discount shopping can be very fun, especially if you and your partner are a regular Bonnie and Clyde (well, not literally) on the mall grounds. Regardless, do not forget the true meanings of the Holidays, and if you are made to choose between scoring a majorly discounted trinket/gadget or have some cuddling time with your beloved, you should be able to decide to be with your partner, in a heartbeat.

Have a love-filled and peaceful Holiday and post-holiday season, everyone!

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Stacey Thompson is a professional writer, marketer, entrepreneur, and a lover of weird little animals. She is based in San Diego, California, and also writes about relationship-related topics in her gang’s blog, Word Baristas. Legal matters are out of her domain of expertise, so she recommends family law firms like Gower & Bluck.